You are currently browsing the monthly archive for September 2006.

Oooh! I’ve been tagged! This is my first time ever! Ok, hope I get this right.

Meme from Ganns:

1. How often do you blog? My bloglife hasn’t been very active lately. But I visit my blogs and my favorite reads at least once a week.

2. Online Alias: vida | cafevida | milkymooo

3. Have you ever stood up for someone you hardly knew? Yes, and I’ve been physically hurt because of it too.

4. What do you do most often when you are bored? I work (LOL). I also sing along with whatever’s playing on the radio and I browse. But when I’m at home, I’m never bored. I barely have time for myself!

5. When bathing, which do you wash first? The first thing I “wet” is my feet. But the first thing I lather up is my hair.

6. Have you ever been awake for 48 hours straight? I think so. I was still working in Makati, then, but the details escape me.

7. What color looks best on you? Personally I find I look good in blacks, browns, greens, and old rose (no bright colors, please).

8. What’s your favorite alcoholic drink? Vodka.

9. Do you believe in heaven and hell as a real place that each of us will go to after death? Yes.

10. Do you find that you have more online friends than offline friends? I think I do, most of my friends are still my friends because we get to see each other online.

11. What was your favorite subject in school? Philosophy, Psychology, and English.

12. Are you a perfectionist? Yes.

13. Do you spend more than you can afford? Nope.

14. Is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved before? Definitely! I’d rather feel the pain now then be left wondering the what ifs.

15. Do you consider yourself creative? Yup-yup!

16. Do you give yourself the credit you deserve? No…

17. Do you donate time or money to charities? Not as much as I would have wanted.

18. Have you recently done something that you’ve criticized others for doing? I don’t really criticize. But there are some behavior that I don’t like that I think I’ve done (e.g. nagging)

19. What’s on your mind right now? I want to sleep… s&t baby.

20. Say one nice thing about the person who tagged you and the five people that you are going to tag.

Ganns is the sweetest, kindest, and most creative man I’ve ever met! Anyone would be lucky to have him as a friend or part of their family. He helps me remember that there are still good things in this world, all I have to do is keep my mouth shut, my eyes open, and my heart and mind in prayer.

Tag… tag… tag… 

Archer my ever-patient partner. I love you Dad, life has never been the same since.

Torikya one of my long-time friends who I have been blessed to be in touch with, no matter the distance. One witty woman with a wealth of wisdom with her.

Irish hello, sister! One of my closest college girl friends – she’s smart, she’s sexy, and she’s sassy. What a package!

Jerome ah Jerome! He became an online friend through a post I read in Ganns’ blog. Good times! He’s a daring diva, diba? One of the few blogs that I visit, he’s a great story teller, and a truth sayer.

Quinn is also a former CSB fellow and a really smart guy! He’s our walking dictionary, he is.

The SB category is where I put in detail the “Story Behind” something I previously posted either in this blog or in my other wordpress blog.
This one is about vidaism #1. Call me a prude, but I really get p-i-s-s-e-d when people blurt out their unwelcome and unadulterated opinions. I mean, hello, who died and made you the all-knowing-all-powerful-comment-giver? I especially hate negative comments about people’s looks, even snide ones like “Gosh darnit she looks fabulous, maybe she had botox or something”. And when caught in a situation where I can’t help but comment, I try as much as I can to say something nice rather than something nasty – this of course is automatically rejected or ignored by the all-knowing-chuvanes.

Now the story behind vidaism #1 is that I’ve received earful after annoying earful of such tactless comments. I can’t even count the number of times I’ve ignored comments about my weight. The worst comment I received was “bakit ka nagkaganyan?” (why did you turn out that way?) and “anong nangyari sa yo?”(what happened to you?). Normally I ignore these remarks, but when I know I’m trying my darnest to look better than I would, that is when it hurts me.
Those who knew me in College have the most priceless reactions. Granted I’ve been fighting the bulge since I was in gradeschool, but I bloomed in College. I don’t know if it was the environment (exclusive school for girls) or that I was extremely busy (double major) or because I was happier then, but it had manifested itself physically. But then after graduation, things changed. The stress, the loneliness, the lifestyle, the depression, the pregnancy, and WHAM, 5 years later I turned into a 150 pound fatty-patty! I remember, during the first trimester of my pregnancy I got so depressed because a pedicab driver commented on my waddling, saying “ganyan talaga pag matataba” (that’s how it is when [you’re] fat).

I dont want to accept that it’s just how it is. That people will ignore the corruption in government, the obvious lies of politicians, the degradation of society, the decline of humanity and morals, but they can’t help but unleash a knee-jerk reaction about how you look. We nit-pick without thinking of the consequences and criticize the inane.

When will we see that a kind word is more effective than a harsh one? When will we realize that we should choose when and how to react?

Ok. I’ll shut up now.

Things happen for a reason… HIS reason.

To read more about vidaism#2, go here.